How to Stay Committed to Your Own Growth, Part II

The closer you come to making big changes in your life, the more your negative mind tends to resist those changes. This is what happened to my client Chloe, whom I wrote about in Part I of this post. A s soon as she started to take steps toward building the life she wanted, Chloe came up against some serious inner resistance. Over time, though, she developed the skills to cope with that inner resistance and lower the volume on her negative mind. But even then, her struggles didn’t go away because of the external resistance she faced.

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How to Create a Healthy Relationship with Money, Part 2

In my last post, I wrote about the first two steps involved in creating a healthy relationship with money:
• Step 1: Recognizing your beliefs
• Step 2: Getting to the root of your fears around money

In this post, we’ll focus on the third and fourth steps in developing a healthy relationship with money:
• Step 3: Creating a money goal
• Step 4: Making a plan

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Our parents, ourselves: Forgiving ourselves for how we coped

If we grow up believing we’re responsible if anything upsetting happens at home—or in moments when we don’t get the emotional support we need—we gradually lose pieces of our sense of self-worth.

We make up stories and false beliefs about ourselves to support the idea that there’s something wrong with us. And we tell ourselves this is why we’re not getting what we need emotionally. For example: “I’m not loveable” or “I’m not good/smart/talented enough.” Over time, we develop coping mechanisms to back up our false beliefs.

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From New Year’s Resolutions to Long-term Transformation

Do you want to make big changes in your life this year? Whether or not you believe in New Year’s resolutions, if you’re reading this blog, I’m guessing you have some goals for the coming year. As you probably know from your own experience, having goals is one thing. Sticking with them is another. So how do you stay motivated to keep working toward your goals?

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Alcohol, Drugs, and Becoming Your Best Self

We generally use alcohol and drugs for two reasons: to protect ourselves from emotions we don’t want to feel and/or tap into feelings of happiness and fulfillment. Why does this matter? If we’re using anything on a regular basis to avoid our feelings—or access parts of ourselves we can’t reach when we’re sober—we’re not building our coping skills.

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