The Friendship Series, Part 3: How to be a better friend

I’m sharing a powerful practice to help you strengthen your friendships for the long haul. It starts with a question: What’s one thing you need to work on in order to be a better friend? It may sound like a simple question, but it’s not always easy to come up with an answer. Here are 5 ideas that can help.

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Our parents, ourselves: Forgiving ourselves for how we coped

If we grow up believing we’re responsible if anything upsetting happens at home—or in moments when we don’t get the emotional support we need—we gradually lose pieces of our sense of self-worth.

We make up stories and false beliefs about ourselves to support the idea that there’s something wrong with us. And we tell ourselves this is why we’re not getting what we need emotionally. For example: “I’m not loveable” or “I’m not good/smart/talented enough.” Over time, we develop coping mechanisms to back up our false beliefs.

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Alcohol, Drugs, and Becoming Your Best Self

We generally use alcohol and drugs for two reasons: to protect ourselves from emotions we don’t want to feel and/or tap into feelings of happiness and fulfillment. Why does this matter? If we’re using anything on a regular basis to avoid our feelings—or access parts of ourselves we can’t reach when we’re sober—we’re not building our coping skills.

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How to stay mentally sane during times of crisis…

While there have been other crisis and emergency situations in our lifetime, the coronavirus is unlike any that we’ve experienced. And it’s normal to feel unprepared and unsure of what to do.

Over on the blog, I’m sharing with you the practices I’m implementing during this time, in order to feel more at ease.

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Feeling lonely?

With young people taking longer to settle down and get married these days, I’m now seeing more and more clients who are feeling lonely and concerned if they will ever find a relationship that fulfills them.

I, too, know how this feels. I felt alone for a lot of my 20’s.

But then I had an epiphany that essentially changed my outlook on how my life was unfolding.

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